Listening to: british music makes me bounce
Frankly I've been hearing a lot of hypocritical bull shit.
I'll give you a generalised being from what I've seen/read/whatever (and you might learn some psychology from this also);
There's this guy, let's call him Terry- ok? This isn't someone I know, this isn't anyone you'll know, this is just a made up person called Terry who carries all of the opinions of all the people I'm talking/will talk about later on.
Now Terry likes Rock, Metal, Alternative, Screamo- all of that side of the genre. And in his life time he has either seen/experienced a lot of teasing for liking Rock and wearing black. So he's moderately angsty. These people usually like the other side- Pop, R and B, Rap, Hip Hop etc etc. He doesn't like those people, he won't listen to that 'crappy music'. He's heard of Sophie Lancaster (a young british woman who both she and her boyfriend were attacked for being goths- she died, her boyfriend lived), he has heard people calling his taste in music 'shit' etc.
So he associates those who don't like his taste of music to bad people or the bad people who hurt/bullied/killed people like him (or in Psychology terms that the outgroup is associated with negativeity for the ingroup).
Anyway so Terry finds out that one of his bestest friends likes Rihanna. So he thinks/writes on his tumblr/writes on his twitter/writes on his face book or otherwise vocalises that his friends music taste is shit. OR that he actively laughs and mocks his friend's choices AND he has already stereotyped people for liking Rihanna or other music like that.
Do you see the hypocrisy?
Well there is this theory called 'Social Identity Theory' (Tajfel 1970) that BASICALLY sums up how stereotyping/labelling etc occurs. There are three processes;
1.Social Categorisation- this is the act of actually putting someone into a group- for example; Terry wears black he must be an Emo, Geraldine likes Marilyn Manson she must be a Goth, Robert has a Nike bag he must be a Chav etc etc etc. This triggers stereotypical beliefs, like Robert likes Rizzle Kicks (a british rap/hip hop duo) so he must be just a stupid chav. You have put Robert into the out group so therefore the out group is stupid and horrible but however you and your friends (if you're Terry and like Rock- Terry likes you) like Bullet For My Valentine and wears Conversers so you feel that you're better, more justified etc and you have made yourself an in group.
2.Social Identification- as a member of your in group- you will, well not do as they do unless you are a sheep, but you'll customise yourself to fit in. So if you're in Terry's circle of friends- all of his friends wear Conversers, skinny jeans and Band T-shirts and they like bands like Avenged Sevenfold, Slipknot, BMTH etc etc. This group is now part of your identity. You're friends, in other words, are part of what makes you- you.
3.Social Comparison- now this is what I'm talking about. People saying that people who don't have the same taste of music are stupid and have shit taste. People not wanting to be associated with people just because of what they wear etc. This is ALSO basically the level where Discrimination, Racism, Homophobia and Sexism comes along. You judge someone on their music taste is on the SAME LEVEL as someone being Racist. It's true. This is PREJUDICE.
Terry is just as much of an arse hole for laughing at Robert as much as Tina laughs at Macie who dresses as a boy because she feels more comfortable being a boy. Tina is transphobic.
Basically- ALL I've seen is 'Oh my god, my best friend has the shittest music taste' and those same people are probably anti-homophobic or whatever. Makes you feel good to know you're on the same playing ground as those ideas you hate- doesn't it?
I wish people could realise what they're doing and saying.
The MCRmy are actually the WORST culprits of this; 'MCR saved my life, stay beautiful, keep it ugly! Bullying is WRONG! But ughhhh Justin Beiber fans are STUPID! Ugh Justin Beiber is such a fag! Ugh he sounds like a GIRL! Ugh he's not even good LOOKING!'
Hypocrisy in the FLESH.
I'm trying to educate you all here. I say this because I've had a friend who said they're disappointed in me for liking Nicki Minaj.
Let me tell you a little few things about myself:
I am sixteen years old and I take Psychology as an A-Level (if you haven't guessed) as well as Art.
Music I like; MCR, William Control, Aiden, Depeche Mode, Placebo, MSI, Nick Cave, Nirvana, Green Day, Klaus Nomi, Pogo, Linkin Park, Nicki Minaj, Beyonce, Rizzle Kicks, Olly Murs, Calvin Harris, David Guetta, Lady Ga Ga, Rihanna's ok I guess
I often wear comfortable, dark (often blacks) clothing- Jeans or Dresses or Skirts, I wear what I like.
I bet you thought that didn't fit, my music taste. I deliberately seperated the groups of music to stick it out.
I like MUSIC. I can LIKE WHAT I WANT. Just because I don't put myself into a group does NOT mean I am forced to listen to what the in group listens to. I hang out with Anime fans but I myself do not watch Anime. I don't go telling them that they're stupid either.
People, whether you bully someone for their music taste or their clothes or you bully someone because they're gay or wear 'the wrong clothes befitted to their gender'. Bullying someone for their choices (well Bullying in GENERAL basically classes you as a little shit) is WRONG.
What does it take for people to SEE THIS?
Music was not made to be classed, it is an art- it wasn't made for YOU, no matter how much they say it was, it was made because they had the creative urge to make a song and make it sound how they wanted it to. Whether they wanted it dark and gritty like William Control or with a big beat and kinetic movement like David Guetta. Those two people are no different from each other! They are MUSICIANS.
Music shouldn't be something people bully anyone for, let alone the colour of your skin, the clothes you wear, the gender you prefer, your size, your disability- whatEVER.
I've been shoved around in the school toilets for possesing an MCR bag, I've been called lots of names, I've been teased for being short, I've been laughed at for my music taste and clothes. I've been hassled. I know this guy who's bullied just because he has autism. It is the SAME; some arsehole decided to look at the outgroup we belong to and stoop to prejudice and pick on us. (I am not saying that I had it as bad as my friend does, at all- but it is NOT RIGHT.)
Bullying is WRONG and it should STOP.
It starts with you, really. Just realise that people are good on the inside, regardless of skin size, sexuality, gender, size- whatEVER.
I will defend any one of you to the death, whether you like Rap or Rock, if anyone hassles you. Honestly. I am NOT kidding. Bullying isn't right but yet EVERYONE does it, or at leasts start some teasing bullshit like that.
Just REALISE this.